Comments on Tales of the Trees: Waiting While Dating

I am new to your blog and this post really spoke t...

2009-07-22T09:40:26.463-07:00

I am new to your blog and this post really spoke to me! My boyfriend and I have dated for almost 3 yrs and I am constantly asked "when are y'all getting engaged/married?". I'm in graduate school for 2 more yrs so I usually say not anytime soon!! Every week someone I know from college or highschool has gotten engaged...it's ridiculous and sometimes I find myself sucked into the drama of it all because I find myself being impatient about the whole being engaged thing. I keep praying to God and asking him for patience, because I want my lift to be on his time! Thank you again for this post, it's good to know that others were in the same boat!

oh my how I couldn't agree with you more! my BF an...

2009-07-21T09:00:56.429-07:00

oh my how I couldn't agree with you more! my BF and I been together for 2 years now, but we are both 26 and I guess that means that we should be married by now. I get asked "soo... any plans to tie the knot?" about 30 times a week. The dental hygenist even asked me yesterday and that was the first time I had even layed my eyes on her! So annoying -

oh my hubby and I dated for almost 6 years before ...

2009-07-18T19:09:13.250-07:00

oh my hubby and I dated for almost 6 years before getting married (at least I think that's how long . . . I tend to lose track because now I'm getting old) whatever, it was a LONG time!

People just need to realize that each person's lif...

2009-07-17T08:19:08.493-07:00

People just need to realize that each person's life is personal. We should not feel the need to question another's life if it doesn't fall the way we think it should.

We can take to heart the verse, "for I know the plans I have for you". Easier said than done, I know!

I didn't get the "when are you getting married" qu...

2009-07-17T08:07:59.606-07:00

I didn't get the "when are you getting married" question a lot, but now that we've been married for three years, I keep getting the "when are you going to have kids" questions ALL.THE.TIME. And not even from people that I'm close with! Just random acquaintances. I mean...I don't even really KNOW you! It's none of your business!

Gosh! =.) Love your blog - you are too funny!

I think you could so write a book, I love your tho...

2009-07-17T06:42:39.249-07:00

I think you could so write a book, I love your thoughts and it sounds like you are really helping some girls who are still waiting. I love reading your posts and I chuckled out loud at the little indian boy part! :)

My husband and I dated for five years before we go...

2009-07-17T06:42:24.558-07:00

My husband and I dated for five years before we got engaged and then waited another two to get married after that. Even though we had been together so long, we thought we were still young.

Just wait because now the most annoying question is going to start "when are y'all having kids?" That one is even more annoying. We seriously got asked that at our wedding reception!!! Th

i totally know what you mean... and it's bigger pr...

2009-07-17T06:11:24.055-07:00

i totally know what you mean... and it's bigger pressure while you're in college. when you're out there aren't as many people to put the pressure on you. so frustrating.

It is funny that you mentioned that because it doe...

2009-07-16T22:50:37.462-07:00

It is funny that you mentioned that because it does seem like it, that when you are a Christian people think you will get married so soon or that you see young people who do get married so soon :) hmm, glad I am not the only one who sees it! But maybe it just seems like I see it everywhere and I really don't, who knows!

Thanks for this post! My husband and I also waited...

2009-07-16T20:24:30.112-07:00

Thanks for this post! My husband and I also waited about 5 years before getting married, and you know what? I'm glad! It gave us time to grow up a little bit (we still have a looong way to go!), and to each realize who we're supposed to be as individuals.

While waiting might not be for everyone, I think it made us better prepared for the commitment we were about to make. And, I for one wish more young Christian couples would consider waiting... I think there's just too much pressure from nosy people out there!

You should write your book. I'll help. :)

You are SO right about that question and you know ...

2009-07-16T19:44:21.573-07:00

You are SO right about that question and you know what goes right along with it?!?!? "When are you going to have kids/" or my personal favorite (and struggle!) "When are you going to have ANOTHER baby?!?!" People don't think before they ask those things....but they should! :)

Love it! My husband and I were married on our 5 ye...

2009-07-16T13:53:54.217-07:00

Love it! My husband and I were married on our 5 year anniversary. I think we were dating for a month when people started asking us when we were getting married

I completely agree that there is pressure! Maybe i...

2009-07-16T13:25:15.803-07:00

I completely agree that there is pressure! Maybe it is something about Oklahomans ;)

That is a GREAT title for a book. You really should try to continue writing it. It doesn't have to be a long book!

You are SO RIGHT. There is such pressure once you...

2009-07-16T13:16:48.864-07:00

You are SO RIGHT. There is such pressure once you get engaged to immediately get married. We married at 19 and I have to say that it was assumed that we would marry the very next year...so we did. There is no way we will let our little girl marry that young. LOL You should write the book...wonderful title. :)

Oh you should post the first chapter you wrote!!! ...

2009-07-16T12:06:31.068-07:00

Oh you should post the first chapter you wrote!!! I love it! :)

We only dated for 11 months then got engaged and married 4 months later. I was 27 years old! My book would have been called "Jealous Boyfriends Who Have Never Ever Had A Girlfriend Before But Are Now Dating REDEEMED Girls That Had Tons Of Boyfriends In High School And College But Could Care Less About Them Now." Catchy isn't it ;)

One more thing! Do you get "So when are you two g...

2009-07-16T09:53:38.567-07:00

One more thing!

Do you get "So when are you two gonna buy a home? There are such great incentives for first time home buyers now!" all the time now? That's the newest question we get all the time and it drives me crazy because it's really no one's business what we're doing with our money. If we want to wait a little while before buying a home, we should be able to!

Ok...that's all! Had to get that off my chest!

You would be an excellent author! You have great w...

2009-07-16T09:47:49.204-07:00

You would be an excellent author! You have great writing skills, who knows, it could still happen! :) This is a great point to make! I have been guilty of asking this question... Now I see the flip side!

Oh Megan, I could have been your co-author on this...

2009-07-16T09:43:49.838-07:00

Oh Megan, I could have been your co-author on this book!! We dated for four years, and after the first year, all we heard, from friends and family, was, "When are you two gonna get married?" I hated it and it hurt so much when it was all I wanted, but I knew it was out of my control.

Like I said in my email, waiting is HARD, but it's even more difficult when the people around you question your actions. And I did the same thing as you...I looked for books on this topic but found nothing. If only I had found your blog back then, and I would have had someone to talk to in the same place I was!

BUT, that's all in the past and God is good! Now we both have wonderful husbands and we're ready to celebrate our first anniversaries. God's timing was always right :)

I know exactly what you mean. I had some friends ...

2009-07-16T09:36:46.379-07:00

I know exactly what you mean. I had some friends that dated for a very long time. People were always pestering them.

My friend later told me that it wasn't God timing to get married in four or five years. He said if he'd done that, the timing would have messed his wife's schooling up. Now, they're happily married. Some peole just don't understand the concept of waiting. Not everything is supposed to happen at lightning speed!

Megan, I sooooo needed to hear this today! Thank y...

2009-07-16T09:27:19.450-07:00

Megan, I sooooo needed to hear this today! Thank you!

It's hard to be single in a couples and married world and you're just wondering when it's going to be your time! It's hard but I've been told it's so worth it when you find the one God brings you!

Love ya, sweet friend!

I also started dating my husband at 19 and we got ...

2009-07-16T09:14:18.905-07:00

I also started dating my husband at 19 and we got married when I was 24. It was a long road but I know that the Lord would not have had it any other way-- we both had a lot of growing to do and learning how to rely on Him. We actually fasted from one another for 6 weeks toward the end of our dating days because we needed desperately to hear what His will was-- were we to get engaged, etc... The Lord spoke very clearly to my husband and woke him in the middle of the night. I wouldn't trade that for anything and agree that you can absolutely be a Christian and grow into a wonderful married couple even if you are dating for a long(er) period of time. Thanks for sharing!

I totally know where you are coming from. My husba...

2009-07-16T09:11:34.505-07:00

I totally know where you are coming from. My husband and I went to a Christian university and the running joke was "A ring by spring or your money back!" We were constantly bombarded with when we were going to get engaged and our response is that we are planning on getting married when we are done with school. So, we dated for 3.5 years (throughout college), were engaged for a year(after we had finished college), then finally were married. I didn't feel like "waiting" was that big of a deal, but apparently others had another agenda for us!

LOVE the book title and that concept!

2009-07-16T09:10:54.585-07:00

LOVE the book title and that concept!

i think that would have been a great book! who kn...

2009-07-16T09:00:32.906-07:00

i think that would have been a great book! who knows, one day you may still write it.

i loved seeing the pics of you and Luke in your last post!

I remember reading lady in waiting while I was sin...

2009-07-16T08:51:19.272-07:00

I remember reading lady in waiting while I was single-but yes there isn't anything while you are dating! I feel the same-as if it is a rushed feeling like you HAVE to get married soon...but if it's meant to be it will happen :)