9/27/11

Date Night

Whoa. When I last posted on September 12th I had intentions of posting the next day and then the next and then the next.

But obviously that didn't happen.

Life just got busy - nothing out of the ordinary and the blog took a back seat. Which I HATE it when it when that happens. But it did. Time to pick up and move on.

I don't even really have an update of what we have been up to. Because we haven't really been up to much except trying to keep the house clean and laundry done only to get behind the SECOND it's all completed.

I still need to do Eil's 6 month post. I took the pictures I just need to type everything up.

Friday night Luke and I ordered Mexican food for our usual "Friday night date-in". We had to wait about an hour for our food so we of course decided to go to Target and walk around to kill the time. Well I decided to do this and Luke had no choice.

While we were there I saw this cute orange vest and thought it looked just like the vest that Michael J Fox wears in Back to the Future (one of my all time favorite movies) so I put it on Eli and made Luke take a picture.

Luke thought it was embarrassing that we went into Target, put clothes on our baby, took pics, hung back up the clothes and then left. I thought he needed to get over it. I will do anything for a cute pic of my baby. My sweet Marty McFly baby.

Saturday Luke and I went on an actual date night. Like out to eat and then to a movie. It was a lot of fun. We saw Lion King because it is another one of my all time favorite movies (maybe I should do a post of my all time favorite movies since I have so many). It was just as magical in theater 3d as I thought it would be.

To be honest going on these "dates" is kind of hard for me. I feel SO bad leaving Eli. I'm already away from him for 20 hours a week while I'm at work so is it really necessary to leave him for 3-5 more hours on the weekend? Luke and I were NEVER big date people before Eli came. We never went on dates while dating and very rarely went on them after we got married. Our first date in 2003 was at 10:00 in the McDonalds drive through while Luke played me music such as The Beatles and Bob Dylan to see if I could recognize the songs. Clearly the charmer he was.

But this year we not only had the addition of a new child (which changes E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G) but we also had job changes, money changes, responsibility changes, and more. It has been a lot do deal with and changes that could either cause discord in our marriage or bring us closer together.

Throughout all the changes I can see how important taking time away for just the two of us is. Saturday during our dinner on our date I asked Luke why it was so important for us to go on dates. It may seem like a weird question but we are 100% honest with each other and I can ask him anything. I know it's important, but like I said it's hard for me to leave Eli so I wanted to hear what his reasoning for our dates were. He explained to me why he felt like it was so important for us to get away just the two of us. And I understood his reasons completely. It was good just to ask and hear his explanation and then I understood it better.

Our goal is one date night a month. Which isn't too much time away from Eli and is an awesome investment in our marriage. Plus I don't want my life to completely revolve around my children and be known as the "crazy mom". Time away from my kid(s) alone is JUST FINE. Say it again. Just fine. Lather, rinse, repeat.

I didn't really mean to get on a tangent about date nights but it's just kinda what came out. Call it the Cirlce of Life if you will.

That was me just trying to pull this post together because it has been so random. I plan to return to my normal blogging schedule. Hakuna Matata.

14 comments:

Waiting for Bulgaria said...

Don't feel too bad, my husband, and I don't do the whole "date night" thing very often either. We have never been big on dates. And we both work full time and feel like we get a limited amount of time with our son. Plus he's a part time youth pastor in addition to working, so we are always busy. I think you find what works best for personally.

Kate said...

haha I love the Marty McFly baby pic! Back to the Future and Lion King are up there for me too. I'm glad you're back, I've missed reading your blog!

Classy Fab Sarah said...

Hakuna Matata. So jealous I didn't go see 3D Lion King. Clearly a huge mistake in my life.

Rachel said...

So many things making me laugh in this post. The Marty McFly vest, the Lion King wrap up...you make me laugh Megan Tree :)

But in all seriousness, I get what you're saying. Spending time with the one you love is so important. Even without kids, I sometimes feel like I go a whole week without actually spending time with my husband. I mean, we're together all week, but we both have so many things on our plate that we're not really taking time for one another. That's why I love the chance to just be "us" on the weekend and really catch up. I can only imagine how much a baby adds to that equation.

Hakun Matata :)

Courtney said...

Heck we don't even have kids yet and we do date nights because we feel like life gets too busy for each other sometimes. I think once a month sounds like a great idea!

Laura said...

Date night...what's THAT? :( It's been entirely too long since the hubby & I had one of those...entirely too long. And? I'm loving your hair darker like that. Hooray for blondes gone brunette. :D Never thought I'd say that!

Lauren said...

i think you should use every possible moment to snap cute photos of precious Eli!

and I think date nights are so important! glad you guys are taking some time for yourselves!

PinkSass said...

Missed ya.

Eli is the cutest and you look great. Love the dark hair.

Julie said...

Back To The Future = best movie ever

Cindi said...

We do a lot of date night IN... Even though I stay home with the kids ALL the time :) I still feel guilty leaving them to go out but we strive for once a month out too... Easier on the budget that way ;)

Becca said...

Adam always reminds me that I'm a better mom if we have a solid marriage for Jayci and Caden to rely on. They need both mommy AND daddy and for us, we operate so much better as parents when we're connected and on the same page :-)

ps - love the vest and love it even more that you took pics in Target :-)

Rebecca Bany said...

We use to do date night once a week. But now days it's more like once a month, if that!
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Dianna said...

My sister got that vest for Cooper for his first deer hunting season. It is supposed to be his safety vest : )

Amber said...

I had to laugh about Luke being embarrassed about your Target trip bc my husband would be the exact same way. And I would have no problem with it :-) Definitely worth it for that cute picture!