5/26/11

Still Us

If you've hard it once you've heard it a million times; a baby changes your life completely.

I heard this SO many times before Eli arrived, in fact I heard it many times before I was even pregnant, I heard it so much that it started to get really annoying.

But it is totally true. Once that baby enters your life everything is completely different.

Despite the fact that everything is different I feel like Luke and I are adjusting pretty well.

Those first few weeks were hard, I was crying A LOT and Luke wanted to know why I was crying. When he would ask why I was crying so much I would say " I doooooon'tttttt knooooooowwww" in between lots of sobs and tears. He wouldn't understand how I could be crying and crying but not know WHY I was crying and crying.

Oh men.

It was hard, almost impossible to explain to him that I didn't know why I was crying either but my body was revolting against me.

And on the same hand I didn't understand how Luke didn't instinctively know how to fold up a dirty diaper as tiny as possible to make sure that no smell leaked out.

I have given him MANY tutorials on how to fold a diaper. And I don't even know how I know how to fold a diaper. It just came naturally.

We are almost 3 months in and while there have been some bumps along the road, for the most part we have adapted pretty well to this new parents thing.

We still go out to eat, although it does take planning around feedings. I have learned to always have a diaper bag ready to go, full of extra outfits, socks, my hooter hider, a blanket, and LOTS of diapers and wipes.

We still have quiet time together, we still have fun together, still laugh together and still argue together.

We've had our disagreements about various baby things, we've learned together and fell in love with our baby boy together.

We definitely weren't expecting this season of our life at this time, but as always God knows what is best for us and it has all fit together like a puzzle.

I say all of this because when that newborn baby first came into our lives a short couple of months ago I wasn't sure if we would ever be "us" again.

And we are definitely us. In fact the other day we had a wonderful conversation in true "Tree" fashion.

I asked Luke what the most beautiful thing was that he had even seen.

CLEARLY it was a loaded question, I thought FOR SURE he would said the most beautiful thing he had ever seen was his wife carrying his child for 9 long months, enduring heartburn, headaches, nausea and WEIGHT GAIN, all leading up to the birth of this beautiful baby that had grown in his her belly, starting as a tiny tadpole and growing into a real live human.

I mean obviously that should be the most beautiful thing he has ever seen.

I was waiting for his sweet, tear jerking response, as he thought about it, when he looked at me and said, "probably a valley in New Mexico I once saw while standing at the top of a mountain."

He was completely serious.

Of course I questioned him, thinking maybe he just wasn't thinking clearly and had somehow forgot about watching a HUMAN come out of my body, but no, he remembered that event, he just thought that valley was really amazing.

We are definitely still us.

So all of this to say, yes having a baby changes your life completely, but for every person it is different. It's all about figuring it out and growing during this time. And learning. You learn a lot during these early days.

For instance I learned that for some people, a valley in New Mexico trumps a pushing a baby out of your body.

News to me.

18 comments:

Ashley said...

Haha, okay, I'm pretty sure that if you had someone to follow you two around and just write down every single convo, and blog it every day, reading that would be my favorite part of every day. Your conversations are so so funny, and you tell them in a great way :)

Elizabeth said...

Oh my goodness. Love it.

Jennifer said...

Love this, Megan! You two are wonderful parents! Can't wait to see you in 2 weeks!!!! Yay!!!!

Rachel Antone said...

Thanks for posting this. Tim needs to hear those things. :)

Erica said...

I think you need to get to New Mexico to see that valley ASAP. :) Made me laugh so hard, men!

Grumpy Grateful Mom said...

Your husband's answer cracked me up. I will also have to go see that valley!

That is definitely something my husband WOULD have said. I have now taught him the standard good husband answers, but maybe sincerity is better. :)

Newlywed Next Door said...

I really liked this post.
I hate how people always tell me about "how kids change everything" -- I'm not even pregnant I find it annoying. It's like people think that once you have kids you become parent-zombies and you're not "you" anymore or your husband and you are not "us" anymore. It's odd to me. I firmly believe that if/when we have kids, I'd still be "me", but maybe I have no idea?

jen mccrady said...

This was encouraging! I've been kind of freaking out about never being "us" again once Molly is here, but you made me feel better! Thank you!

Courtney said...

It's good to see your posts again. You always put a smile on my face because you are so real but funny too! I can't wait until we are ready to start our family someday soon, thanks for not just sugar coating everything. =)

Sunshinemeg said...

This is a great post Meg. I worry about how the "us" part of us will be after baby comes along. I think once you've found your soul mate you will change together. You and Luke have both changed and grown together. It's inspirational to me.

Lauren said...

Love this! So glad you guys are still you!

Classy Fab Sarah said...

Oh no he didn't!!!! Silly men. Who cares about stupid valleys in New Mexico.

Mary De Bastos said...

Hahaha! I am dying laughing! I turned to my husband to tell him the story (he was laughing too), and he said,"that is so me!" I told him that it had his name written all over it. My husband is relationship retarded. He won't ever change. Some times it is nice to know you can count on your spouse always being the same!

Immeasurably More Mama said...

Y'all are GREAT parents and you are trasitioning beautifully into your new role.

Perfectly Imperfect said...

My husband would tell you that the "miracle" of birth is the most disgusting thing ever. Nice. Why do we keep them?!?

Waiting for Bulgaria said...

Everything you said is so true and so funny. Your husband sounds so much like mine. It cracks me up.

Kristen said...

This made me laugh out loud - SO sounds like a conversation that could have come from my home! :-)

Sweet Simplicity said...

Oh that Luke!