5/1/09

Jillian Saved My Marriage

When Luke and I first got married I had these visions of us doing everything together.

You know those happy little images you have floating through your head of a married blissful life?

Skipping through the park together.

Roaming through the grocery aisles both hands on the cart, smiling as you check items off of your food list.

Working out together, side by side encouraging one another as you build a body of gold.

These are all visions I had before marriage.

Yes we like to go to the park together, however we don’t skip.

Yes we go to the grocery store together, however around the cereal aisle when Luke takes THIRTY MINUTES to decide on one box of cereal because he doesn’t know if this week he will want a sweet cereal or a healthy one, I usually find myself wishing I had come alone.

And then there is the working out.

Oh the working out.

Marriage counseling never prepared me for working out with my husband.

You see, in high school Luke was involved in many sports.

Megan went shopping.

Oh and watched lots of after school programming.

Our histories in this area are not similar and it is evident.

Actually my freshman year of college I started working out hard-core trying to avoid the freshman 15.

I tried to maintain this working out plan through all of my college years.

Then my junior year while jogging I had a stabbing pain in my chest so bad I figured I was dying.

Turns out my lung was collapsed so it was preventing me from working out.

Four years and two perfectly inflated lungs later, I don’t think I can use that excuse anymore.

It was nice while it lasted.

So after a nice long break from working out I recently decided that I wanted Luke and I to start jogging together.

If only I could rewrite history.

I would simply continue to watch TV while Luke went jogging, I would not suggest that I join him.

You see, anytime we go jogging together we always get in the biggest fight.

Usually it is because he tells me I’m not pushing myself hard enough.

He tells me I didn’t play sports in high school so I don’t know the pain of pushing myself and I need to push harder and jog more than walk, in order to burn more calories.

So I then I tell him he is rude and run away from him.

I am awesome at handling conflict.

And actually now, I realize it’s not really a ‘fight’, it is just me being mad.

So when I heard about this DVD I thought maybe this was something Luke and I could do together, something that we could at least try to together.

And I have to say; for once we worked out together without fighting.

Actually after the first day we didn’t get into a fight, but I was a little irritated with him because I felt that he wasn’t encouraging me enough during the workout. So I made sure to tell him about it.

I seriously told him that, and now in writing I realize how ridiculous it was.

There is a verse in the bible about thinking before you speak; I should really commit that one to memory.

When I initially brought up the idea of the DVD to Luke he was a little doubtful because he thought it might be too girly for him.

However after about five minutes into the workout he began quoting lines from ‘Rocky’ and I knew I had hit the jackpot.

A workout that we could do together, in our own home, without fighting the whole time.

Glorious.

Today will be day 3 of shredding and by tomorrow morning I fully expect to feel like I got hit by a bus.

But it’s worth it knowing that am actually doing some sort of physical exercise.

Plus Luke said he hasn’t work out this hard since football camp, and I take personal pride in the fact that I am right there doing it with him.

With our without encouraging words.
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30 comments:

  1. What level are you doing? I'm still on Level 1 and I'm quite content to stay there for a while. I heard once that walking and jogging burn the same amount of calories... it's not the speed, it's the distance that counts. That could be completely false but I'm holding onto that fact for dear life and I will forever use it as my excuse not to run unless I'm being chased! I'm glad you two found something you can do together! I'm hoping to convince my husband to join the shredding fun with me one of these days.

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  2. What is it with guys quoting Rocky all the time?! Josh does the same thing.

    We don't work out together, either. Josh was a big tennis player in college. He tried to teach me once a few years ago, but we got SO mad at each other that we ended up serving on separate courts. Ha!

    You are now the 9th person I've heard that's doing "the shred"....I'm out the door to get this thing. :-)

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  3. Hilarious! Jillian kicks butt!!

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  4. Haha! I loved this post. I cracked up as soon as I saw the title.

    Seriously though, I'm so glad you guys found something you can do together! That's awesome!

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  5. haha, skipping in the park together thats awesome! : )

    That is awesome you found something you can do together! Drew and I may do p90x together, but I think he is scared i will kick his butt haha (kidding)
    Loved this post!

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  6. Oh wow! That is amazing...and it almost makes me scared to try the Shred if you are going to hurt that bad! What exactly does she have you doing that is that intense?

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  7. I love reading your stories... I can totally visualize & see what you are saying!

    I had to laugh at the idea of you yelling & running away... mainly because I do the same thing!!!

    You gotta set up a camera to take a shot of you two "shredding" together!!!

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  8. Garth and I are the SAME way with running and why I go alone now! Ha!

    I'm so glad you guys are enjoying the Shred, yay!!!

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  9. All of Jillian's workouts are hard core!!! I knew exactly what you were talking about when you compared your arms to noodles. Oh, and the intense ab pain? Have you gotten the sore neck from straining to do leg lifts? Man, she is one tough cookie. It will be my post preggo drill sargent routine!

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  10. I think sometimes it is a lil difficult to workout with men.. either they dont encourage... push us enough or they do too much.. sometimes i used to feel like ryan was making fun of how i worked out.. but he always promised he wastn! yeah for working out!!

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  11. i love this post, haha you sound just like me!! i hate working out with hubby because he always does the same thing. maybe we'll have to try this 30 day shred! :)

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  12. Love it!! It can be very hard to work out with your better half. And no, our pastor didn't discuss that with us in premarital counseling either! Hubs and I have been doing the Shred together too and he also said he hadn't been worked out like that since football camp! I love it b/c he laughed at the thought of him doing a workout dvd...little did he know he wouldn't be able to move the next day!

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  13. ok i tried doing level one but it seriously kicked my ass. i couldn't even walk up my stairs!! it's going to take me forever to get through all 3 levels.

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  14. YAY for not fighting. Im planning on getting it tonight so im actually hoping that i feel like im hit by a bus lol.

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  15. I started the shredding today...FINALLY! I hope I will be able to move in the morning! I'm glad you guys are able to work out together! I'm still trying to find something that my Hubs and I like to do together!

    Have a great weekend, and if you get a chance you should enter my giveaway!

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  16. I laughed at your grocery aisle comment!!!

    So true... why do they take forever to decide on easy things? Sometimes I live him stranded on aisle 3... go to 7, 8 and 9.... and he'll STILL be in aisle 3.


    Cute!

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  17. Seriously, you and Luke remind me so much of Dustin and I! This is the first workout we have ever been able to do together and he actually wants to do it with me. I have tried to get him to do workouts with me before, but they aren't his style. I have ran with him before only to eventually sit and wait on the curb for him to finish. Ha!

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  18. Just bought the shred last night...maybe I will have your luck to get my love to try it with me!

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  19. I love this! I actually looked for Jillian's video today at Target with my friend, but they were all sold out...darn!

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  20. I seriously need to give this a try. I've heard SO much about it :)!!

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  21. Today is day 4 for me. Hubby claims he has a bad knee and can't do it. Jillian did not save my marriage...but it's okay. We are going to make it anyway! I LOVE your blog and your style of writing!

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  22. Oh my! I just read the lung story and that's crazy...glad you've overcome that! Here's to no more collapsed lungs!

    I've bee doing 30 Day shred for a few weeks now and I love it. My husband, however, has no desire to do it with me, and that's ok with me!

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  23. I so enjoy reading your blog, but I just have one question...What in the world can you POSSIBLY have to Shred?????

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  24. i'm so glad your sweet little lungs are better! i still can't believe you had to go through all of that! and i can't wait to get beat up by the shred too=)!

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  25. I loved this post.

    I enjoyed reading your blog tonight.

    I am still very new to the land of blog,
    but so loving reading others stories.
    Everyone has a story and so many of them are so touching....
    Hope you will stop by for a visit. The May give-away has started and this month there will be 10 winners.

    I will be blogging from Disney World soon...

    post....

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  26. Ha love this! That is so funny that you run away from him lol! I would probably do that exact same thing!

    Glad that you can workout together with this DVD! I just got it in the mail and plan on doing it with Jon! Hopefully we can stick with it!

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  27. Shred is tough! I keep telling David that he should try it with me..he was JUST like your husband with participating in a lot sport in highschool. he hasn't taken me up on it yet!

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  28. that is awesome yall found something to do together!! I really want to try the shred..hubby goes to a gym and I just joined fit for her.

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  29. my husband and i are doin gp90x and let me tell u it kicks yr butt, but its nice cause we do it togethter nad he DID think it was going to be girly but i proved him wrong after the first workout he was pooped.

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