11/6/08

Bitterness

When I was in high school I was very actively involved in my youth group.

My youth group was very small and everybody knew each other very well. We had fun no matter what we were doing.

If there was a youth event I was there. I probably didn’t miss one youth event from my 8th grade year to my 11th grade year.

Then my senior year I quit going. I didn’t get all ‘wild and crazy’ or anything like that. I was simply mad. My youth pastor said something that hurt my feelings so I just quit going.

Would you believe me if I said I don’t even remember what the heck he said to me to make me quit going? But at the time it seemed important enough to cut off relationships that helped form me spiritually and quit going to the thing I loved best.

Because I was hurt.

How often does this happen in our church today? Somebody doesn’t like what the pastor said, somebody gets hurt by another church member, or somebody just doesn’t want to take the time to serve their church anymore.

With Luke working in a church for the past 4 years I have seen my fair share of people who get hurt and just quit coming to the church they had been actively serving.

I have seen people who did originally have reason to be hurt, allow the enemy to take that pain and twist it, turn it, and rub it in until it just become plain bitterness.

And that is exactly what happened to me. I am guilty of allowing bitterness to take a hold of me and control me, and as a result I missed enjoying my senior of high school with the youth group that I had become so close to.

I really don’t know why I’m writing this, other than I know what it feels like to bitter, and I know the sting of being on the other side of bitterness. I know what it feels like when somebody that you formed a relationship with stops putting in the effort because they were bitter and they have allowed it to control them.

Is there any area of your life, where you have allowed hurt to form into bitterness?  I have to re-examine myself often, and ask myself: What areas am I blinded in right now? It may seem like hurt on the outside, but inside I am allowing myself to dwell on it, until it become full blown bitterness.  

I know exactly where I need to start in my life, there are several areas where bitterness is forming and I need to get rid of it immediately. 

"Get rid of all bitterness, rage and ager, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" Ephesians 4:31-32
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18 comments:

  1. I hate how Satan seems to use such a small thing to build such a large bridge between us and God or other people. It seems to take control of you and affect every aspect of your life. Thanks for making me think about this again and reexamine some areas of my life!

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  2. That is one of my favorite Bible verses - I have it framed in my bathroom so that I see it every morning!

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  3. This is a great post! I have also seen a lot of this in the church, but really need to examine the areas in my life that I might be holding onto some bitterness! Thanks for posting it!

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  4. I am guilty of doing the same thing. I could do some re-examining myself.
    You're right about getting rid of the bitterness immediately. Don't let it take root.

    Thanks for a great, thought-provoking post Megan.

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  5. great post-i passed it along to my teenage daughter whos struggling with youth group right now...thanks for sharing your testimony about this...and glad I happened to run across your blog:)

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  6. Thank you for writing this! It spoke to me in more ways than one!

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  7. You're right! I have to remind myself...or I mean Hubby reminds me too :) Boy can it drag ya down and it's so not worth it because God has everything under control anyway! :)

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  8. I so needed this today. Thanks for sharing your heart! Susan

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  9. We all need to be reminded to not hold a grudge or to become bitter. Thanks for sharing this little piece of yourself. I love getting godly reminders from blogs.

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  10. Great post and so timely because we just spoke about this in my small group yesterday!

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  11. Thank you for this, Megan. I was just telling my accountability group last night that I really need to guard against bitterness in a certain area in my life. I needed to read that scripture that you shared. Thank you!

    Hope you have a great weekend! Praying for you!

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  12. Yes!! Because I tend to over analyze situations or conversations in my head it leads me down the wrong path every time. Satan always gets me there. Thanks for posting this.

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  13. I think that happens to everyone, and I know that it's happened to me more than once! I get mad about something, and it makes perfect sense at the time, then I get bitter about it, and I hold a grudge. I've GOT to work on that!

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  14. I definitely needed to hear this today! Thank you!

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  15. It is so crazy how that is exactly what happened to me my senior year! I mean to a t!I wish I could go back and change it, it sucks when we allow bitterness to take control of our lives.

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  16. Thanks for posting this Megan. It speaks to me. I think there may be somethings I need to examine in my heart.

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  17. There's a verse in Hebrews 12:14-15 that talks about bitterness. I have written in my very old Bible that's falling apart: How do you miss grace? Do not let any root of bitterness grow up among you. (v.15) God says when you let bitterness take root in your heart it pushes out the grace of God and you're on you own. You have to handle it without God's grace. Bitterness and grace cannot co-exist in the same heart.

    Satan uses bitterness and hurt feelings to destroy and it starts with a root. Since I've grown up a preacher's kid and have been in the ministry all my life, it's something I've witnessed all too often. I liked what Beth Moore said on Life Today last Wednesday..."Be a tattletale to God. Tell Him when others hurt you. Let Him deal with them...He will." ;)

    I'm proud that you are honest and upfront about things in your life. It helps you and others.
    We're all growing and learning. I know I have grown a ton the past few years.

    Thanks for sharing!

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  18. This is so good, Megan! It's crazy how small things can get out of control when we don't totally submit it to God! Thanks for this great post!

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